Marriage – the most meaningful relationship there is in all human life and it can be whatever you decide to make it. There is no greater happiness for a man than approaching a door at the end of a day knowing someone on the other side of that door is waiting for the sound of his footsteps.
Ronald Reagan to his son Micheal Reagan before he was about to get married.
You can only get out of a thing as much as you put in it
There are more men griping about marriage who kicked the whole thing away themselves than there can ever be wives deserving of blame. There is an old law of physics that you can only get out of a thing as much as you put in it. The man who puts into the marriage only half of what he owns will get that out.
Some men feel their masculinity can only be proven if they play out in their own life all the locker-room stories, smugly conﬁdent that what a wife doesn’t know won’t hurt her. The truth is, somehow, way down inside, without her ever ﬁnding lipstick on the collar or catching a man in the ﬂimsy excuse of where he was till three A.M., a wife does know, and with that knowing, some of the magic of this relationship disappears.
It does take quite a man to remain attractive and to be loved by a woman who has heard him snore, seen him unshaven, tended him while he was sick and washed his dirty underwear. Do that and keep her still feeling a warm glow and you will know some very beautiful music.
If you truly love a girl, you shouldn’t ever want her to feel, when she sees you greet a secretary or a girl you both know, that humiliation of wondering if she was someone who caused you to be late coming home, nor should you want any other woman to be able to meet your wife and know she was smiling behind her eyes as she looked at her, the woman you love, remembering this was the woman you rejected even momentarily for her favors.
Taken and edited from Letters of Note